Escape The Negativity of Constant Complaining Now

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Complaining is such an easy habit to get caught up in, be it complaining yourself or even just being affected and influenced by the complaints of others. Pardon the drama for a second, but it truly can be a deadly habit. It can cut years off your life, and even worse, cut life out of your years.  As Amber says, “It’s a simple thing to change, but not easy.”

Once we get to the point where most of our time is spent in gratitude, we will still be faced with the bombardment of negativity every where we seem to turn. It’s especially hard when it comes from people we truly love. We begin to have to learn to love the negative Nancys and complaining Craigs, yet not let their lowly attitude wear us down to a point of joining them in crabby city.

How do we stay in a positive place and by doing so move ahead enjoying life and fulfilling our dreams?

1. Guard that precious energy of yours. Don’t let partial information on the news, social media, and gossip disrupt your ability to believe in goodness, joy, peace, and endless possibilities.

2. Don’t let someone constantly dump their endless complaints on you. Offer them solutions to inflict real change or so they move on to someone else who will entertain their negativity.

3. Be intentionally grateful for what you have now. There is always a worse situation to be had.

We love having discussions about such topics because it truly can make or break what we get out of life. Come over to our facebook page and tell us how you stave off negativity and complaining in your life.

Keep smiling,

3 Ways to Let Your Light Shine

You are the light of the world and it’s the perfect time to let it shine. Each and every one of us has a unique signature of light that helps to elevate the state of the world. What we mean by that is simply that each person has a divine expression, personality, look, quirk, flare to bring to the world table and make a major impact.

One thing we love about shining our light is the absolute freedom experienced when acting upon inspiration or create something meaningful. It’s exhilarating and liberating.

Your light is super powerful too so at times when you step out and shine it, it can be scary. But we give you tips in the video on how to stay strong. Stay strong you must because you in your daring, radiant form is a force to be reckoned with.

Abandon all stops and learn 3 ways to let your light shine!

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Eff New Years Resolutions

Which one of you has already failed to follow through with your New Years Resolution? Or maybe you stopped making resolutions a long time ago because you know you never stick to it.

If you find yourself having a difficult time staying committed to goals, we know why and we’re here to help you change all that!

What’s really happening when we fall off the bandwagon is:

We haven’t found the deep, compelling, passionate WHY inside ourselves which is the driving force that keeps us going.

Some goals are simple. Some more complex. But most everything worth having takes effort. If we’re keeping it real, you’re not going to put in a lot of effort unless you have a darn good reason.

Knowing that darn good reason will compel you to keep plodding along through all the hours, days, months, and even years it sometimes takes to reach a goal.

Are you ready to get clear on what it is you want and WHY you want it?

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Be honest. What has been some of your New Years Resolution that didn’t really come to fruition?

Embrace Life. ALL of It.

Let’s face it. Sometimes life feels pretty sucky. Not always, but there are hard times. Everyone has their fair share of pain. Part of living life to the fullest is embracing the pain. You read that right. Embrace the pain. It can be extremely scary and the urge to avoid pain can make many shy away from experiencing life.

Running from emotional pain results in stunted personal growth.

If you learn to see pain from the perspective that it is there to teach us something, it is there to help us blossom, the hard times become something entirely different. We don’t seek out hard times but they become a part of life that we fully accept and actually become grateful for.

Some of our biggest growth spurts are directly a result of the pressure from the pain breaking that hard shell off of us and allowing seeds of virtue to spring up.Think about it. Perhaps you lost a loved one. What virtue is likely to grow out of that? Strength? Acceptance?

When I lost my grandmother I gained the unlikely virtue of open-mindedness. Long story, but the point is – there are many blessings buried in the pain.

Don’t let the fear of pain cause you to close yourself off to love and life! There are so many experiences to be had. All of which have the capability of enriching your life. Go for it. Take the bad with the good. Embrace it all. Live fully!

TWEET! TWEET! “Accept what is today while reaching for what can be tomorrow.”

Let us know what gift was buried within some painful experience in your life that is now a part of you forever?

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What Is Desire Saying To You?


Desire leads to fulfillment. It’s something to pay close attention to. All forms of desire.

Poor ol’ desire has kind of gotten a bad rap these days. Maybe because some have let the fires of desire consume themselves and others, creating hell and hurt.

Desire is like a fire. It can wreak havoc in lives if allowed to burn too hot, burning up all that comes in its path. Or it can be snuffed out if not given the proper amount of attention and breathing space.

Don’t judge your desire. Ask it what it’s trying  to communicate to you. Ask it what it seeks. Ask it what it is trying to provide for you.

Desire always wants to bring you something you need or long for.

Needs and longings originate from the deep place within you that is often beyond reason.

Desire tells you to eat, drink, make babies, run from danger, go toward abundance. The nature of desire is always survival. Once desire has taken care of your survival, it thrusts you towards thriving.

This is what Steph and I want for you, a flourishing, thriving life that overflows into the lives of others.

Often we tell ourselves we need to be content with what we have. The grass is not greener on the other side. Just be glad you have a job. At least you’re healthy. Whatever our choice of words may be.

100% we do need to be grateful for what we have. Gratitude is the foundation for a greater life. Learn to be content no matter the circumstance.

But know this – contentment does not mean we convince ourselves it’s okay to stay in a situation less than fulfilling.

Certainly not if it’s in our power to change it.

Disowning your truth deep within that you long for something more causes insidious discontentment. It’s a clever denial of what is. What a sneaky form of suffering.

Let’s be honest, sometimes the damn grass is greener on the other side.

I guarantee the man that’s hungry thinks it’s greener on the other side if it includes a meal. Can’t say I blame him. Sure, there are wonderful lessons in lack but who wants to remain there?

We can spend a great deal of time and effort trying to learn the lesson of contentment, clinging to what we have when all along we should have let it go because there was something better in store for us. The heart always knows this.

When we deny desires of the heart, a sort of death takes place.

It’s a good thing to have values, sacrifice, and at times deny desire, but what about those nagging desires that just won’t leave you?

You truly desire to be fit and healthy. You truly desire to feel successful. You truly desire to make a difference. You truly desire to be with the love of your life. You truly desire to be abundant. You truly desire to bring running water to villages that don’t have it.

No desire is too big or outlandish. Similarly no desire is too small. If there is a desire deep within you that simply won’t leave you, it’s worth taking a look at and giving it plenty of space to speak.

That desire could be guiding you to your life’s purpose, your calling, or simply offering you a wonderful gift. It sounds romantic and you know what, it is.

There is nothing wrong with injecting some real life romance into your life. Let’s enjoy this ride as much as we can!

Below is a list of basic human needs or desires that make all of us come alive and thrive! What the hell else are we here for if not to truly live?

Here is Tony Robbin’s spot on list:

1. Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure

2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli

3. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed

4. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something

5. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding

6. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others

We all have different avenues of fulfilling these core desires but unanimously we all long for the same basic things.

Remember, desire’s purpose is to provide you with something that makes you come alive. Even our desire to eat and drink literally keeps us alive. Respect it.

Give yourself permission to listen to your desires. Let them unfold. Don’t be afraid of what they might say. Don’t be scared if they are something huge and don’t feel small if your desires are simple. They are there for good reason.

This topic is so interesting. What are your desires saying to you? I’d love to hear. Let us know in the comments below.

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Making It Through the Lows


Tonight I sat on my bed and cried. The pain cut right through me and I ached.  I know you have experienced this. This utter dislike with life, this cry out for some mercy. I felt my body pleading for relief of this pain. As I sat there crying, I thought, “what if I just embrace my struggles and not fight them. What if I accepted myself for who I am in all this?” Sounds simple right?

Suddenly in an instant I stopped crying and I realized that I can choose to embrace this moment to embrace this pain, to just let it run through me and open me up. This is the only way to receive in these moments in fact this is the BEST time to receive some powerful healing and wisdom.

It occurred to me that my pain was just like a beautiful rainy day. There is a place for sunny warm days where you run yourself ragged feeling like you should conquer the world and “enjoy life to the fullest.” Then there are those rainy days that sort of stop you in your tracks.

Many people run around in those rainy drab days, still rushing, still trying to not let the rain stop them, but by then end of it they are soaked in their nice clothes, hair wrecked, umbrella mishaps, traffic slower than normal and just frustrated that it slowed them down.

I happen to love rainy days and I know amber does too. We’ve talked before how rainy days slow things down to a point that allow you to just be, be without pressure. So it occurred to me that the pain was just some beautiful rain and I guess in a way it literally was a downpour… my own tears.

The pain slows down time and slows you, it allows you to see things at a distance, it gives you the choice to embrace the healing powers of letting things wash over you or you can choose to try to rush through it and miss it.

I also noticed once I surrendered to the suffering, I became highly sensitive to others and to the small things. I heard an old favorite song in the car on the way to the store and it gave me such joy. I danced and sung my butt off, well as much as I could while driving.

Then I saw an old lady trying to pick out an avocado, she mumbled to herself, “these are all too ripe.” Normally I wouldn’t involve myself.  But at this moment, on my slow rainy day, I heard her and simply went up and found her a nice avocado and  handed it to her as I said, “here this one is good.” I mean this isn’t some enlightening nirvana moment, but this is what pain CAN do for us if we let it.

I have always gone back to this idea that I should reach a point where I don’t struggle at all. I hoped for a time where I had it all figured out and just always happy and content. I’m starting to realize that life is neither solely about happiness nor the struggle. It’s about the sunny days and the rainy days and all the other weather in between. All of which serve their purpose and pacing us and inviting us to open up in different ways.

It has invited me to return to a place I feel like myself, where the child in me can be creative and in the moment. So as the rain falls and my tears come and go, I’ll go back to what I remember always doing as a child: getting lost writing in my diary, reading, painting, singing and doing all things creative.

I also plan to make something for an old man, my neighbor. I’m torn though, should I make him some cookies or something healthier like a nice meal, he is like almost 80 after all perhaps he shouldn’t eat a bunch of sugar haha!

Summing up…when you hit the low of lows and you can barely get through, consider this:

1. Try to release the idea that life is about being happy all the time and that pain should be avoided. Meditation helps.

2. Remember what makes you feel like yourself again. What kept you busy for hours when you were a kid? Go back to that.

3. Think of someone or just notice someone who you can assist. Doesn’t have to be a big thing. Listen and give yourself to them in a way they may need.

What have you surrendered to or embraced lately?  Let us know with your comment below.

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Standing Strong in Your Truth

There are so many different beliefs, ideas, and interpretations out there. There are plenty of people who think they have the corner on truth and they want you to subscribe to their way of thinking. They are ready to tell you that they are right and your beliefs are wrong.

Some of the greatest icons in our history faced this very thing. They stood strong in their own convictions to the point of imprisonment and even murder and guess what? They became legends, making a massive mark on the hearts and minds of people throughout the ages.

More on that as we discuss standing strong in your truth in this week’s episode!

Get Yo’ Tweet On: “Do you boo ’cause living someone else’s truth could be your lie.”

In the comments, let us know where someone has tried to push their beliefs or convictions on you but you stood strong in your own truth!

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Raise Your Vibration Now

We love love love this topic because vibration is really how the universe speaks!

Your thoughts, words, feelings, actions all vibrate at a certain frequency in hertz. Ever heard of like attracts like? When you hold a high vibrational frequency within your being the universe will send you all the things that resonate at that same frequency.

In short, if you want more love; you have to BE more loving. If you want peace with an enemy, you have to BE peaceful. It’s sorta like a duh moment but it’s easy to miss simplicity sometimes.

Same goes for attracting abundance. If you want abundance, you have to vibrate at that frequency. You can’t go around feeling crappy about your current situation and thinking there’s no hope for increase. You’ll just attract more lack.

A good rule of thumb is: be grateful for everything. Yes EVERTHING! Even the hard knocks in life. They can be used to draw awareness to exactly where you need to raise yo’ vibe.

Check out our 4 tips in this week’s episode to raise your vibration now!

Get Yo’ Tweet On: “Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” ~Unknown

In the comments, let us know what you want to attract in your life. How do you plan to raise your vibration to attract it?

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How to Navigate the Unknown

We’ve all been there – at a fork in the road, uncertain which way to go. Fear of the unknown can paralyze us. We know it’s time to make a change but how do we know which way to go and what if we eff it up?

Being in limbo totally sucks. Equally sucky is feeling like that leap into the unknown is imminent doom territory. Moving forward takes guts!

The great news is, you have an inner compass that will point you due north. More good news, even if you screw up royally, failure = personal tailored lesson. Hell to the yeah for that perspective!

Navigating the great unknown is totally doable and moving forward with all the associated risks will always serve your growth. Being the greatest hero of your own life takes fluidity and movement. Movement is life. Stagnation is death.

So, flow down the stream even when uncertainty looms. Clinging to the rock while the current moves on takes more work than it’s worth!

Get Yo’ Tweet On: “The unknown is not what to be afraid of, it’s only when the unknown becomes known that one can decide whether to be afraid or not.” ~Peterson @amberandsteph

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Overwhelmed by Self-Helpy Stuff?

If you’re like us, then you love learning and expanding yourself. You desire living your life to the fullest. And dangit, you are determined to heal from yesterday’s baggage and say ta-ta to it once and for all.

We sometimes are so programmed to go go go, do do do, work more and be more. Before we know it we’re like a robot going through the motions of life; forgetting that subtle yet powerful, creative force inside of us.

Surrounding ourselves with the intention to grow is great. We can find a book or article on almost any area we want to grow in. The information is out there in loads. But remember, all of that is outside of ourselves and it can get overwhelming. The source of all our desires and needs lies within us.

A lot of the time, becoming still and listening with an open heart and a still mind will provide more self-help than any book out there. It’s always there, your source, and your power.

Get Yo’ Tweet On: “The educated man, satisfied with what he has done, moves backward. The innate man, knowing who he is, moves forward.” @amberandsteph

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