Desire leads to fulfillment. It’s something to pay close attention to. All forms of desire.
Poor ol’ desire has kind of gotten a bad rap these days. Maybe because some have let the fires of desire consume themselves and others, creating hell and hurt.
Desire is like a fire. It can wreak havoc in lives if allowed to burn too hot, burning up all that comes in its path. Or it can be snuffed out if not given the proper amount of attention and breathing space.
Don’t judge your desire. Ask it what it’s trying to communicate to you. Ask it what it seeks. Ask it what it is trying to provide for you.
Desire always wants to bring you something you need or long for.
Needs and longings originate from the deep place within you that is often beyond reason.
Desire tells you to eat, drink, make babies, run from danger, go toward abundance. The nature of desire is always survival. Once desire has taken care of your survival, it thrusts you towards thriving.
This is what Steph and I want for you, a flourishing, thriving life that overflows into the lives of others.
Often we tell ourselves we need to be content with what we have. The grass is not greener on the other side. Just be glad you have a job. At least you’re healthy. Whatever our choice of words may be.
100% we do need to be grateful for what we have. Gratitude is the foundation for a greater life. Learn to be content no matter the circumstance.
But know this – contentment does not mean we convince ourselves it’s okay to stay in a situation less than fulfilling.
Certainly not if it’s in our power to change it.
Disowning your truth deep within that you long for something more causes insidious discontentment. It’s a clever denial of what is. What a sneaky form of suffering.
Let’s be honest, sometimes the damn grass is greener on the other side.
I guarantee the man that’s hungry thinks it’s greener on the other side if it includes a meal. Can’t say I blame him. Sure, there are wonderful lessons in lack but who wants to remain there?
We can spend a great deal of time and effort trying to learn the lesson of contentment, clinging to what we have when all along we should have let it go because there was something better in store for us. The heart always knows this.
When we deny desires of the heart, a sort of death takes place.
It’s a good thing to have values, sacrifice, and at times deny desire, but what about those nagging desires that just won’t leave you?
You truly desire to be fit and healthy. You truly desire to feel successful. You truly desire to make a difference. You truly desire to be with the love of your life. You truly desire to be abundant. You truly desire to bring running water to villages that don’t have it.
No desire is too big or outlandish. Similarly no desire is too small. If there is a desire deep within you that simply won’t leave you, it’s worth taking a look at and giving it plenty of space to speak.
That desire could be guiding you to your life’s purpose, your calling, or simply offering you a wonderful gift. It sounds romantic and you know what, it is.
There is nothing wrong with injecting some real life romance into your life. Let’s enjoy this ride as much as we can!
Below is a list of basic human needs or desires that make all of us come alive and thrive! What the hell else are we here for if not to truly live?
Here is Tony Robbin’s spot on list:
1. Certainty: assurance you can avoid pain and gain pleasure
2. Uncertainty/Variety: the need for the unknown, change, new stimuli
3. Significance: feeling unique, important, special or needed
4. Connection/Love: a strong feeling of closeness or union with someone or something
5. Growth: an expansion of capacity, capability or understanding
6. Contribution: a sense of service and focus on helping, giving to and supporting others
We all have different avenues of fulfilling these core desires but unanimously we all long for the same basic things.
Remember, desire’s purpose is to provide you with something that makes you come alive. Even our desire to eat and drink literally keeps us alive. Respect it.
Give yourself permission to listen to your desires. Let them unfold. Don’t be afraid of what they might say. Don’t be scared if they are something huge and don’t feel small if your desires are simple. They are there for good reason.
This topic is so interesting. What are your desires saying to you? I’d love to hear. Let us know in the comments below.
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